Is Tony Robbins worth it?

I first heard about Tony Robbins from a friend when I was at University.

I was a mature student, over the age of 30, studying  Homeopathic Medicine with a  wonderful motley bunch. We were considered a bit odd by most of the ‘normal’ students and staff, but we were too busy learning weird and wonderful stuff to care.

But back to Tony.

I was loaned, by said friend a huge CD box set, which I diligently listened to. I read a book of his, ‘Unleash The Power Within’, and I took a financial course of his in London about a year later.

This was well over 10 years ago, and was certainly my first real step into the self improvement world, as in doing something more than simply buying a book.

So what do I remember?

From the CD’s the only thing that I remember is the Dickens Process.

I strongly urge you to have a look at the linked video, and try it out for yourself.

It was doing this method, and seeing my life continue as a  Midwife and living where I was  for the next 5-10 years, that really encouraged me to start changing my life.

What is the Dickens Process?

The process basically asks you to think of your two biggest beliefs that are holding you back. It then asks you to feel them, and I mean really feel them. Then it asks you to feel those feelings as you see yourself 5 years from now, and then 10 years, and finally 20 years.

It basically scared me shitless.

The heaviness that I felt in my body was horrid.
I was aching with it.It felt like I was wrapped in chains and could not move.

It showed me in no uncertain terms how utterly shitty my life would be if it remained as it was, and, it helped me look outside of the box I was very much in.

That box being ‘I’m a Nurse and Midwife and I have no skills to offer outside of that’.

I can now see how small that thought was, because, if you deconstruct the role of a Nurse and a Midwife, you have someone that can crisis manage, organise, respond and react to sudden changes, have the stamina of an ox,  the determination to help get the best for women in many various circumstance, be compassionate, empowering, funny, etc.; you get the idea.

Onto the book.

Well, I can’t really remember too much of that, apart from the notes my friend had made, and they were all about his fears. I remember him being scared of his girlfriend leaving him, but I’m glad to say he absolutely blasted through them.

The Financial course.

Wealth Mastery. I didn’t take this in any exotic location, it was in London, and at the time it blew my mind. Firstly, because I had never attended a conference quite like it, where they whip you up into a frenzy, have you move around and keep you pretty pumped the entire time. I had also never been introduced to the concepts of investing. The different types of investing; how to spread your portfolio and  to really look at your finances. Asking the ultimate questions –   what it would take to become financially independent?

Basically all those things that the finance guys tell you you should do.

(Schools should be teaching this stuff, because so many of us wonder around not knowing or understanding how money works).

Now, Tony didn’t turn up, One of his buddies did, and I can honestly say it was a great time. I took the folder home that I had diligently scribbled in, vowed not to be that person that never looked at it again, (they mentioned this person at the end of the weekend) and promptly became that person that never looked at it again.

It is only now, years later that I realise the stupidity of not looking at it, and not having a tight financial plan.

I’m only starting to do that now.

Here are a  few people that are, unknown to them, guiding and helping me, but there are many out there, so do look around and see who resonates with you:

Financial Samurai

Budgets are sexy

The Money Principle

But to answer the question: Is Tony Robbins worth it?

I have two take-a ways.

1) The Dickens Method – an absolute yes, as this changed the trajectory of my life.

2) The realisation ( though very belatedly)  that financial education and knowledge is crucial, and the sooner you start the better.

Turn the financial curating into a life long habit, and start NOW.

When did this self help obsession start?

Probably around 20 odd years ago when I started to look into Buddhism. Bit of a cliché really, but that is where my obsession with self help started.

I wanted to stop feeling miserable all the time, and I thought if I could become like the Dalia Lama, then bingo, job done.

Turns out you have to mediate for lifetimes to be like him, and as far as I know, I only have this one.

Meditation
Meditation

Scroll forward 20 years, and where exactly am I on this journey?

This is the focus of this blog.

To write about as many of the books I have read, the courses I have attended, including Tony Robbins and a few other famous ‘Guru’s, and to tell you what I got out of them.

I dare not think about the amount of money I have spent, nor the harm that undoubtedly some of this has done to me, because lets face it, too much navel gazing can’t be a good thing.  Plus, much of it is aimed at the Go!Go! Go! crowd, and if that isn’t your energy type…. (more on that in a later blog), then it can turn things sour.

Yet in the main, these self help books and Guru’s do help, sure, many are on an ego trip, some have simply found that selling self help/self improvement is easy money, a few have even gone to jail for it.

But with 20 plus years of  plodding through these Guru experiences and experiments, I feel that I’m getting to the bottom of all this, and have plenty to pass on to you.

Here are just a couple of things I have learnt:

One: you have to do the work – if there are exercises in the book/programme, you need to do them.

Two : you need to turn the mirror to face yourself, because this is where the gold is, it is not in the Guru.

The plan is to write this in maybe  some sort of chorological order, starting with Tony Robbins. I was loaned a huge CD box set of his, plus I went on a financial course of his. It was over 10 years ago now, so my memory is a tad sketchy, but I can remember enough for a post.

So come on this journey with me , as I   write out what I got from it,  show myself just how far I have come, and for you, it might show you what to go for, or what to avoid like the plague.