Feeling scared feels sh*t.

Your heart beats unnaturally fast, your brain freezes up, you might feel as if you’re going to wet your pants, you certainly want to get out of the situation you are in; generally, it feels shit.

Yet we are told time and again to “feel the fear and do it anyway!”

( yes, I’ve read the book….)

Who else is sick of being told our fear is a prehistoric response to a sabre toothed tiger?

Sabre Toothed Tiger
sabre toothed tiger. Image from animals time.com

No, my fear is related to mucking up, feeling a total idiot and probably not being able to cope with the situation I am in.

So why are we encouraged to face our fears when they feel so bad? Fear is there to tell us to back away, surely?

Sometime though, on the other side of fear, we realise that our beloved mind was being a total jerk and was being triggered by something that happened years ago, instead of the fear we are facing.

Fear is relative.

If you have a fear of paperclips, you know that fear is not a rational one. Fear of public speaking is rational, because your audience is going to judge you.

A genuine fear for your life is not what this post is about.

This is about  perceived fears – of being seen, of being heard for who we really are.

These are HUGE fears.

That why we all keep quite about the fact that we love the Bay City Rollers and Duran Duran. That’s why we don’t tell people that we can see dead people, because they will judge us, and we will be scared of their responses.

We are scared that people won’t like the genuine us.

What if they are no longer nice to us? What if they ridicule us?

But what if they don’t? And what if, you don’t care if they do?

Fearlessness according to Robin Sharma, is something we can learn.

We can learn to walk into the room and wax lyrical about the Bay City Rollers (if you are younger than 40 you won’t know who they are – Google them), and you won’t care what others think, because you are being genuine to yourself.

And that is what this entire life experience I think is all about.

To live the life that suits us.

And that means being scared, but doing it anyway. Showing up as who we really are, and this is part of the Guru Experiment.

Feeling scared, but doing it anyway.

I have chosen five things that scare me, and on one level or another, for the next 5 days I’m going to do one of those things, either in a big or a small way.

I’m going to learn the art of fearlessness.

But of course, if I do see a sabre toothed tiger – I’m running away.